Melissa & Eric – They look like they both stepped right out of a magazine. The photos Phindy Studios took are amazing. Their wedding day could not have been more perfect. The love they share is so sweet and we genuinely enjoyed sharing this special day with them and their families. But stop right there – I said the day could not have been more perfect. BUT, was their day perfect because everything went off without a hitch? NO. I have to admit while it was picture perfect, it was not without it’s snags but just like marriage, it’s how you embrace and overcome the “trials” that make the triumphs all the more sweeter! Eric & Melissa will have no problem focusing on what’s important!!
The morning started with no movers showing up to bring the church pews from storage and set up. I spent an hour trying to find a crew and just when I thought I was going to have to tell Melissa no church pews, Brian and James stopped everything to get them all by themselves – and let me tell you they are extremely extremely heavy and so large that it takes multiple trips with the trailer. This put us behind a few hours but we worked quickly to get everything else in place. Brian’s custom arbor was secured and the flowers arranged beautifully by the gals at Enchanted Florist. We set up the reception, did the last minute clean ups, ran through rehearsal, assisted vendors and untangled ribbons hanging from the tree countless times. When it was time to put the flowers on the cake, Jessica (sister/cake baker/Matron of Honor) could not find them anywhere. I searched and searched and called the florist only to have her confirm they were left in the kitchen. We never found them but Chef’s Market came to the rescue with flowers they brought for their decor. We later figured out that somehow the cake flowers were used on the arbor! During cocktails we lit the beautiful peach beeswax candles. They were fast burning and were gone before dinner was served! We replaced them with extras which of course melted just as quickly. The rest ran smoothly until send off when Eric had trouble driving the very cool vintage car. After some good-hearted laughs at his expense and a push by the groomsmen, Eric got it moving!
All these things are minor so why bring them up? Because the point is – even picture perfect has it’s reality. The key is to put on those “rose colored glasses” (song by John Connolly) and only see the beauty of marrying the love of your life. Nothing else matters! Your happiness will make your day picture perfect as well.
Melissa Review of the day:
Photography: Phindy Studios
Catering: Chef’s Market
Florist: Enchanted Florist
Wedding Cake: Jessica Hale (Bride’s sister)
Vintage Car: Front Porch Farms
Styling & Planning: Kathy Best
Arbor: Brian Best
Monogrammed Table Linens: Bride’s mom Catherine Lachiver
Rentals: Front Porch Props/Southern Events
Ceremony Music: Travis Patton
Reception Music: Nashville Party Authority
Eric: Melissa and I met on June 7, 2004, at the ages of 16 and 15. We were both volunteering at Handycamp, a camp for adults with mental disabilities. She’d come up from Hilton Head Island, South Carolina, to Indiana, where I lived, to volunteer there with her church. When I met her, the first thought in my head was, “I’m going to marry this girl.” This was crazy, as we’d barely spoken yet, but I knew I was in love when I saw her interact with the campers- she was amazing.
Melissa: It’s hard to know when you’re 15, but I think I can honestly say that, from that first week I met him, I knew that Eric was an incredible person, and wanted him actively involved in my life, as much as was possible, in whatever capacity he could be. We tried dating long-distance through the remainder of high school- lots of letters, lots of phone calls, an occasional visit. That was made a whole lot easier (a relative term!) when I moved to Nashville a few months after we met. We tried our best not to let distance get in the way, but the realities of living so far apart were hard. Yet, every time we were around each other it confirmed what we already were feeling, even being physically apart for so long- we very much loved each other, and Eric and I felt like we were perfectly matched for each other.
Eric: We decided to stop being ridiculous, and just fully give into love the summer going into college. Our problem was that we were going to different universities: Ball State in Indiana, and Belmont in Nashville. During freshman year, Melissa and I would visit each other at least once a month, driving 6 hours and 347 miles just to see each other for a weekend. Through some budgeting and lots of figuring, I did transfer to Belmont. Finally, after 3 years, we were able to date like a normal couple.
The school year was wonderful, we wasted no time in spending time with each other, whether it was writing papers together or staying up late in the dorm lobby playing scrabble online. The school year was over quickly and I went off to intern at Handycamp back in Indianapolis. We got to see each other sparingly during the summer, and once I was back in Nashville for the school year, she jetted off to Australia to study abroad.
Melissa: Luckily we weren’t new to the long distance relationship, however we’d never tried it over dramatically different time zones or continents! The next few months consisted of late night and early morning Skype dates, where we’d catch each other up on the days and weeks occurrences. For his birthday, Eric’s parents surprised him with tickets to visit me in Australia and we were thrilled! After I got back, the rest of junior year was a blur, and before we knew it, we were anticipating senior year and the life afterwards.
Eric: Upon our graduation from Belmont, Melissa was accepted to a Master’s of Marriage and Family Therapy program, and I got my dream job at Emma, a Nashville company. Shortly after these post-graduation plans were concrete, we knew it was finally time. I purchased the pear-shaped diamond she’d been imagining since middle school. The day before she turned 22, more than six years after we first met, I proposed to her in a gazebo on Belmont’s campus where, 4 years prior, I promised her I would transfer and we would try to date normally. I wanted to finish that promise and start a new one that would last the rest of our lives.